Forgiveness is not easy
We all carry a lot of grudges and that’s quite natural. Yet this ‘baggage’ is not really healthy.
We are hurt often and we feel guilty ourselves, but sometimes we also blame others. Well, it is inevitable that someone should be blamed for a failure or a mistake, don’t they?
Funny thing is, it should not be this way.
Hurtful feelings are widespread
Many of us ruminate and hurt ourselves with these distractive thoughts. Some of us direct this blame towards our enemies. Whilst it is all logical and so on, it is not productive or helpful.
When you lose someone really close to you, it is unbearably hurtful. And sometimes you can blame yourself for your mistakes or wrongdoings. Yet you can’t change the past and your future simply hasn’t emerged yet. All you can do is just to learn from these experiences and move on.. hopefully, to be a better you.
Losing someone or experiencing a break-up are those instances when we really feel tender. Forgiveness is a thing that might heal some of the wounds we have. It is definitely important when we turn to ourselves and explore how do we actually relate to ourselves.
Many of us treat ourselves like.. well, awful.. Just sit down and have a five-minute break from everything. Allow yourself some alone time. Can you see how you usually address your own self?
We often start picking on our flaws. We are our own worst critic. But why? Why cannot we just forgive ourselves for being … well, simply ourselves?
Meditation as a tool to practice forgiveness
Meditation teaches us… or frankly speaking, opens our own eyes on who we really are.
We look into ourselves, we are in ‘being’ mode instead of ‘doing’ and it reveals our true nature.
Ability to forgive actually increases our well-being. Everyone can increase their self-compassion, self-care (nutrition and activities), practice forgiveness, gratitude, but also realise how connected we all are and that we want ultimately the same thing. We do not need to seek and strive to prove how ‘special’ we are, but rather be kind to ourselves and others.
Don’t think of forgiveness as a sign of weakness, it is quite the opposite. Forgive and let all those toxic energies leave your body, mind, and emotions. This allows you to start letting go of the emotional traumas of your past. This, in turn, enables you to heal naturally. Forgiveness is a very important step to your freedom and meditation is a tool to help you do just that. See our basic instruction and learn how to meditate today.
‘Putting yourself in an altered state of mind, and tapping into your spiritual energy during a forgiveness meditation can help you quickly and lovingly release your negative thoughts and feelings’ (https://www.wikihow.com/Forgive-Using-Meditation).
Jack Kornfield advises that during your regular meditation practice you can decide to start breathing ‘into the area of your heart, let yourself feel all the barriers you have erected and the emotions that you have carried because you have not forgiven – not forgiven yourself, not forgiven others. Let yourself feel the pain of keeping your heart closed. Then, breathing softly, begin asking and extending forgiveness’.
Try incorporating this forgiveness meditation into your loving-kindness practice. Having a lot of energy drawn from wishing yourself and others well-being, health and peace will also help you to forgive and heal.
We hope you can look deeper into yourself and heal some of your traumas with forgiveness meditation.